Who's Running the Show
Are you running the show in your life or are others? Do you find yourself doing what other people are telling you to do rather than following your own heart-centered guidance? Setting boundaries on what you allow and don’t allow in your life can feel overwhelming at times and may feel like a circus balancing act. Do you often find yourself saying, “Yes,” when you wanted to say “No?”
Boundaries are the limits you set with yourself around what you will or will not tolerate. Simply said, what’s OK and what’s not. You have the right to your feelings. If you haven’t set boundaries in the past it could be for fear of conflict, being a people pleaser, making sure everyone else is OK, or even doing things out of obligation. However, setting healthy boundaries is taking back the power in your life. Instead of abandoning your needs, depleting yourself and holding back, it’s OK to put you first with self-love, while prioritizing your well-being and what’s best for you.
In the body, there are seven main centers referred to by many as chakras. They align the spine starting at the base of the spine to the crown of the head. Chakras are said to be concentrated energy centers of the body (spinning wheels of energy and light) which are represented by specific areas of the body. The second or sacral chakra represents relationships, which includes boundaries and is associated with the color orange and the element of water.
In this chakra, if you don’t set boundaries, you can become a sponge for other people’s problems or allow yourself to be the doormat for their dirty shoes. Setting boundaries will be uncomfortable at first, but if you communicate your needs with kindness and honesty, most will be open to your wishes. Some may not accept them at first, but if communicated in a loving way should help them to understand or at least think about your needs.
Start off by creating your boundaries. What are your desires and needs? Because, if you don’t decide, others will decide for you. Then speak your truth, communicate and express your desires with honesty and kindness. People won’t know unless you tell them. Compromise within your relationships to make things work or at least respect each other’s limits. Finally, maintain the boundaries you set.
When you are in balance in this area you feel comfortable in your own skin and freely express your feelings and emotions. Being in balance allows a creative expression of your true self. However, if you’re out of balance in this area, try creating some boundaries with honesty, kindness and respect, and say “No” with grace and gratitude. The next time you’re feeling like someone has crossed your boundary lines, ask yourself, “Who’s running the show?” and then course correct. Remember, you’re not responsible for other people’s feelings, but you are responsible for yours. Be your own best friend.
xoxox…..Sheryl
Three steps to setting boundaries: Create, Communicate, Cultivate
Affirmations for setting boundaries:
My boundaries are sacred and I honor them.
I am a spark of the Divine and my boundaries matter.
I am worthy of creating, communicating and cultivating my boundaries.
Everyday I’m becoming clearer on the boundaries that serve me best.
I honor myself by honoring my boundaries.