Pillow Talk
I’ve had a love/hate relationship with my body most of my life. I’ve criticized, reprimanded, laughed at, and shamed my body for the not-enoughness I told myself. It wasn’t just me I heard say those things it was also echoed throughout society, the news, and over the last several years, social media. Which kinda reinforces the “I’m less than” phenomenon that plagues many women. I’ve been working on training my mind to ignore the falsehoods in those words.
Some days are better than others, but I’m working on most days being better. As many of your know, I’ve been on a path of transformation for several years now. HA….you’ve probably thought to yourself, “When is she ever gonna get there?” My simple answer is never. Life is about the journey and not the destination. I want to be better than I was yesterday. Not in the “I’m not enough right now” way, but in the “I’m working on loving myself most” kinda way.
When my generation was growing up, women were taught to always think of others before themselves. I’m here to tell you …. that ain’t right! I was in the habit of putting myself at the end of my list. My new belief is if we take care of ourselves first, and honor our own needs, we have more than enough to give to others. I’m pretty confident my children would want that for me as well.
I want to be able to love my body, right now. Not when I lose weight or inches, but right the hell NOW! Which brings me to my latest self-care and soul-care practice. I’d like to share it with you in hopes it will inspire you to love your body more as well. I’m calling it, “Pillow Talk.” Every morning before I get out of bed and each night when I climb into bed, I’m lovingly talking to my body. Sometimes I list all the parts I can think of, other times I might list the amazing things my body has done for me. Basically, I’m praising and loving it …. just for being me. I’m working on the heart of the matter …. love. I’m not here to boast that everything is magically different, but I’m doing the best I can right now to move the needle.
What messages are you telling yourself about your body? Are you beating yourself up or loving on it? I hope collectively we are getting better at showing ourselves and each other grace and understanding. I invite you every morning before rising and every night as you climb into bed a little pillow talk of your own. Or be inspired to take some other action at loving yourself most. We are worthy of every kind word we think or speak.
xoxox…..Sheryl